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How To Deal With Divorce 210-299-4777

stephanie“This can be one of the most traumatic experiences that a person can go through no mater what your grounds are.”  Arthur Augustine. No one enters a marriage believing that it will end, yet almost half of all marriages do end that way. Whether you are facing a contested, uncontested (collaborative), annulment, or you have a voidable marriage dealing with a breakup is never easy. However, there are some things that you can do to make the process and property division go as smooth as it possibly can.

You may find my article “when marriage is over” to be very helpful. We always offer free consultations which allows us to answer all of your questions.  In addition we I’ve included a second for definitions.

This can be hard if you are waiting to meet residency requirements but the first and perhaps most important thing to do in dealing with a breakup is to try & maintain a positive self image. Even if you are the one that initiated the suit, the feelings of failure and betrayal that accompany can overwhelm the sense of who you are. It is important to keep these feelings in perspective.

Don’t put yourself down; what is done is done, and it cannot be undone. Going forward, you need to have your bearings about you. Stop comparing yourself to others. Try to focus on the things that you can do, even the small things. Every day that you get out of bed is one more day that you are further in the recovery process, and one more sign that you are learning how to deal with your breakup.

After all of this, it is important to take charge of your own life. Stop seeing yourself as a victim. Recognize that you alone are responsible for your fate; however circumstances may treat you, it is still up to you how you will go forward. It is up to you to decide whether you will learn from mistakes, or whether you will be crippled by them. Create an action plan that includes all areas of your life. Commit to your physical well-being by taking care of your body through a healthy, balanced diet and exercise.

If you have kids, don’t let them become pawns in a struggle between your ex and you.  The impact on children can be severe.  Often, by focusing on the needs of others, we are able to move past our own problems. Don’t overcompensate, but make sure that you are being a good parent by taking care of your children and by making sure that they know that, no matter what happens, you love them and have their best interests at heart.

Get out of the house from time to time. Isolation only leads deeper into depression; get out with your friends and your family. When you get invited to an activity, force yourself to go if you have to; in the end, time that you spend with other relationships will very much help you deal with divorce.

If you are having an extremely difficult time, you should seek professional help. A therapist,psychologist, psychiatrist, social worker, or religious leader may be able to help you work through some of your needs and feelings.

The journey to recovery after divorce is a long one, and it is not easy. However, by dealing with your breakup, you can ultimately find yourself in a much better place.