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Helping kids is necessary, even in “easy” divorces

On Behalf of | Dec 12, 2023 | Divorce

Children add layers of complexity and emotion to Texas divorces. Whether the proceedings are straightforward or intricate, parents need to prioritize their children.

Of course, navigating the emotional terrain of divorce while ensuring the healthy emotional development of your children demands a thoughtful approach.

1. Open and honest communication

Parents should commit to open and honest communication with each other. Scheduling regular times to discuss the children’s needs, feelings or behaviors reassures kids that, despite the divorce, their parents are still dedicated to parenting together.

Use respectful, businesslike and positive communication with your co-parent, especially in the presence of your children. Refrain from substantive conversations during transitions to shield your children from unnecessary stress.

2. Develop a co-parenting plan

Create a written co-parenting plan with the assistance of a co-parenting therapist if necessary. This plan should encompass decisions about schedules, parenting and major life changes. Establishing this plan reduces or prevents future parental conflict, which can be particularly damaging to children.

3. Prioritize children’s needs

Always prioritize your children’s needs over personal desires or disagreements with your co-parent. This may involve compromising and making decisions based on what is best for the children’s well-being. Striking a balance between your own needs and those of your children is crucial for their emotional stability.

4. Maintain consistency between homes

Nearly 25% of the population of Texas is younger than 18 years, and 6.3% of Texans are under 5 years old. Many of these children have parents who do not live together.

Strive for stability and consistency between the two homes, even when parenting styles differ. Consistency in rules, routines and expectations provides a sense of security for children moving between households. Avoiding conflicts over different parenting approaches is key to fostering a supportive environment for your children.

5. Offer emotional support and validation

Provide emotional support, empathy and validation for your children. Acknowledge their feelings, allowing them time and space to express themselves. Active listening and showing understanding help children cope with the emotional challenges of divorce.

Regardless of the complexity of divorce in Texas, prioritizing children’s well-being is important. You and your ex can create a supportive and child-centered environment during and after the divorce process, facilitating the resilience of your children.