All relationships have their ups and downs – but when you hit a low point that lasts that can have you thinking about divorce.
Is it time to call “quits” on your marriage? What are the signs that a relationship is truly over? Everybody has their personal tipping point, but here are some big signs:
You can’t trust your spouse
All kinds of things can erode trust between couples, but nothing tends to cut deeper than infidelity. It’s important to realize, however, that infidelity isn’t always sexual. A spouse who has been hiding an addiction, gambling behind your back or involved in an “emotional” affair online can do just as much damage. Once trust in your spouse is lost, it may be impossible to regain.
You just don’t care to fight about the same things anymore
You can only have the same argument so many times before it becomes pointless and exhausting. If you find that you’re happier ignoring the issues that used to make you fight because the stress of yet another debate isn’t “worth it,” that’s a sure signal that you have begun to mentally and emotionally check out of the marriage.
You feel more like your spouse’s roommate
Do you feel lonelier with your spouse than when you’re actually alone? Have your interests, goals and dreams diverged so far from your spouse’s that you no longer seem to be on a path together except by default? If you feel like you and your spouse have begun living parallel lives, that’s a strong indication that your relationship is permanently fractured.
Ending your marriage is a big decision, and it’s okay to take your time sorting through your feelings and any practical concerns. Learning more about how the divorce process works can help you gather the information you need to make a considered decision.